Let Me Upgrade You...

Women work so hard to make themselves the perfect woman for every man.  Some men complain about having to do the approaching and endure rejection time and time again.  They also lament the pressure of having to make a lot of money, be funny and charming, and all the other things women look for in a man.  That kind of effort pales in comparison to the rigmarole women go through to catch a mate.  Weave, makeup, painful high heels, tight dresses, thongs, manicures, pedicures, and it's all for men.  So my question is, if you meet a man who is great in almost every way ( nice personality, intelligent, ambitious and most of all fairly compatible with you) is there anything wrong with attempting to make minor adjustments to his appearance?  Superficiality notwithstanding, a good man is great but a man with the right amount of "swag" (we need to come up with a new term) can take him from a 6.5 to an 8.  No one can help who they are attracted to, but part of me believes it's wrong for women to count a guy out because he doesn't dress the way you like or carry himself like he's Idris Elba.

Confidence is key.  Confidence is sexy. Both men and women are attracted this quality, so it's clearly a must.  But if a person is a little deficient in the fashion sense department I see nothing wrong with making a few suggestions here and there.  Needless to say, I'm not opposed to a fixer-upper.  You can't change a person, but if they're open to your suggestions, why not give them a little style boost?  I see no issue as long as it does not oppress the essence of who they really are.  Most men use their girlfriends as personal stylists anyway.  I see lots of fixer-uppers.  They often do not know they're a fixer upper though, which is kinda funny.  Moral of the story is, you don't have to let someone with potential go to waste.  Sure they may find someone who loves them just the way they are, but you might love them AND be able to make them better in several ways, and there's nothing wrong with that.

I bet Beyonce picks out Hov's attire, and he picks out her wigs.

Have a great weekend!